Showing posts with label waiting game. Show all posts
Showing posts with label waiting game. Show all posts
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Not Chosen...Again
For the sibling group of three, we were not chosen. A family closer was chosen...again.
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Calls Coming In
Brian and I so desperately want to parent children. Brian is so excited about becoming a foster dad. And he will be so good at it too. He has always had a passion for helping children. We spend part of yesterday learning how to care for Sweety Pie. We each got to the treatments and spend some time with him. Brian did very well. I definitely think he should go into the medical field.
Since meeting with Carrie and Kristy last week, we've recieved a few phone calls. The first one was for a 4 year old biracial boy BUT he's terrified of dogs. We have Nero, who is very sweet. The next call was for a sibling group with a 10 month girl and a 5 year old boy. Got the call today that they no longer need a home. (Though I'm not sure why.) BUT in the same breathe the caseworker said she had another referrel for a sibling group of three: Boy (age 4), Boy (age 2), and Girl (4 months). I, of course, said yes. So, we are again waiting. They need a home today, so if I don't hear from the caseworker by 4:30 (when the agency closes), I'll assume we were chosen...again. At least the calls are coming in.
Since meeting with Carrie and Kristy last week, we've recieved a few phone calls. The first one was for a 4 year old biracial boy BUT he's terrified of dogs. We have Nero, who is very sweet. The next call was for a sibling group with a 10 month girl and a 5 year old boy. Got the call today that they no longer need a home. (Though I'm not sure why.) BUT in the same breathe the caseworker said she had another referrel for a sibling group of three: Boy (age 4), Boy (age 2), and Girl (4 months). I, of course, said yes. So, we are again waiting. They need a home today, so if I don't hear from the caseworker by 4:30 (when the agency closes), I'll assume we were chosen...again. At least the calls are coming in.
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Adoption is....
"Adoption is about finding families for children; not children for families."
Someone posted that on one of the message boards and it got a mix of angry responses. The agurement divided those who adopt infants and those who were foster parents and birthmoms. I think it is a little of both. You both need each other. But we lean more towards finding families for children though. We're adopting not because we can't have more children---because we can and it would be a whole lot easier. We're adopting because there is a need out there. We have a loving home and there are children who need a loving home. We're adopting because we are accepting and understanding of others and there are children who need that. We're adopting because we want more children and there are children who need a family. So when we get passed over we feel sad and disappointment but we also feel happiness because that child or children has found a home. And in the end that is all that matters.
That being said we were passed over...again. We were hoping to get a girl who had a rare heart condition. Our caseworker, Carrie, called me yesterday and told me that she was already matched with a family but if things didn't work out we would be given a call. We're praying it does work out. That little girl has a home and that is all that matters...as heartbreaking as that is for us. We're still waiting to hear about the eight year old who loves anything "sparky and glitterly." Carrie did read a flyer to me over the phone about a 5 yr old girl who is strong-willed, loves to sing and dance, and wants to take swimming and dancing lessons. Hmmmm...who does that sound like? She sounds like she would be PERFECT for our family.(See I told you that adoption is a little of both!) However, Carrie has to find out if her caseworker is accepting family profiles first. And of course we have a TON of questions to ask too.
And now we wait...again.
Someone posted that on one of the message boards and it got a mix of angry responses. The agurement divided those who adopt infants and those who were foster parents and birthmoms. I think it is a little of both. You both need each other. But we lean more towards finding families for children though. We're adopting not because we can't have more children---because we can and it would be a whole lot easier. We're adopting because there is a need out there. We have a loving home and there are children who need a loving home. We're adopting because we are accepting and understanding of others and there are children who need that. We're adopting because we want more children and there are children who need a family. So when we get passed over we feel sad and disappointment but we also feel happiness because that child or children has found a home. And in the end that is all that matters.
That being said we were passed over...again. We were hoping to get a girl who had a rare heart condition. Our caseworker, Carrie, called me yesterday and told me that she was already matched with a family but if things didn't work out we would be given a call. We're praying it does work out. That little girl has a home and that is all that matters...as heartbreaking as that is for us. We're still waiting to hear about the eight year old who loves anything "sparky and glitterly." Carrie did read a flyer to me over the phone about a 5 yr old girl who is strong-willed, loves to sing and dance, and wants to take swimming and dancing lessons. Hmmmm...who does that sound like? She sounds like she would be PERFECT for our family.(See I told you that adoption is a little of both!) However, Carrie has to find out if her caseworker is accepting family profiles first. And of course we have a TON of questions to ask too.
And now we wait...again.
Friday, February 4, 2011
While we wait...
We we are waiting for our forever children, we have decided to start preparing for their arrival. I cut back two of my shifts at work so that I have more time with Mirabel and have found a church. This church has just the right amount of people; not too big and not too small. The people are laid back and friendly. There are three services and most people show up late and sit in the back! (Yes, we are one of those people!) They have a lot of activities for children too. Mirabel loves going to Sunday school and next week we are going to have her start going to Kids Worship, which is a children church where she will learn to sign and dance. There is a puppet minstry, Preschool, youth group, Bible Quizzing, G.L.U.E (God's Love Unites Everyone) and minstry opportunities. So, this will be the perfect church for our future forever children. :-)
I plan on painting Mirabel's room and redecorating it for her birthday coming up next month. The theme...Princess of course! We plan on replacing windows in the downstairs bedrooms and putting hardwood floors in the upstairs bedrooms. (So much easier to clean!) I also plan on signing Mirabel up for swimming lessons so that we can go to the pool all summer long. I am starting to go to a mom's group at the church (starting next week) and have begon to connect with old friends. Over the next couple of months, we want to install an invisible fence for our dog and maybe get a playhouse for outside. How fun would that be? We decided to have a staycation this year. There is so much kid friendly things to do here from Knobles to bowling, free movies Wednesday, fairs, parks, free waterpark, Catworld, roller skating...the list goes on and on. So, for now we are focusing on Mirabel and are patiencely waiting for our forever children.
I plan on painting Mirabel's room and redecorating it for her birthday coming up next month. The theme...Princess of course! We plan on replacing windows in the downstairs bedrooms and putting hardwood floors in the upstairs bedrooms. (So much easier to clean!) I also plan on signing Mirabel up for swimming lessons so that we can go to the pool all summer long. I am starting to go to a mom's group at the church (starting next week) and have begon to connect with old friends. Over the next couple of months, we want to install an invisible fence for our dog and maybe get a playhouse for outside. How fun would that be? We decided to have a staycation this year. There is so much kid friendly things to do here from Knobles to bowling, free movies Wednesday, fairs, parks, free waterpark, Catworld, roller skating...the list goes on and on. So, for now we are focusing on Mirabel and are patiencely waiting for our forever children.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Waiting and Hopeful
My caseworker called me yesterday and said there were several other families interested in the sibling group. Their caseworker is going to sit down with county workers and narrowed it down to three or four families. We should know by early next week if we are one of those families, which she said is rare. Normally, it takes months. Months! Yikes, I didn't realize how long this proccess was going to take. So, all we can do now is put it in God's hands and wait. If this is the family he wants for us, then it will happen.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)