Adoption is....

"Adoption is about finding families for children; not children for families."

Someone posted that on one of the message boards and it got a mix of angry responses. The agurement divided those who adopt infants and those who were foster parents and birthmoms. I think it is a little of both.  You both need each other.  But we lean more towards finding families for children though.  We're adopting not because we can't have more children---because we can and it would be a whole lot easier.  We're adopting because there is a need out there.  We have a loving home and there are children who need a loving home. We're adopting because we are accepting and understanding of others and there are children who need that. We're adopting because we want more children and there are children who need a family.  So when we get passed over we feel sad and disappointment but we also feel happiness because that child or children has found a home. And in the end that is all that matters.

That being said we were passed over...again.  We were hoping to get a girl who had a rare heart condition.  Our caseworker, Carrie, called me yesterday and told me that she was already matched with a family but if things didn't work out we would be given a call.  We're praying it does work out.  That little girl has a home and that is all that matters...as heartbreaking as that is for us. We're still waiting to hear about the eight year old who loves anything "sparky and glitterly."  Carrie did read a flyer to me over the phone about a 5 yr old girl who is strong-willed, loves to sing and dance, and wants to take swimming and dancing lessons.  Hmmmm...who does that sound like?  She sounds like she would be PERFECT for our family.(See I told you that adoption is a little of both!) However, Carrie has to find out if her caseworker is accepting family profiles first.  And of course we have a TON of questions to ask too.  

And now we wait...again.